Our identity is built from the investments we make with our time.
Our identity is defined by what matters to us, and we can understand what matters to us based on how much time we dedicate to it.
If money is important to us, we will spend much of our time on work.
If we invest time in physical activity, it reflects our desire to be healthy and flexible.
If we spend time preparing healthy food, it shows our commitment to health, and this effort becomes part of our identity.
If we read or watch educational content, it reflects our desire for wisdom, and wisdom becomes part of who we are.
If we invest time in building relationships, we will be identified as social people.
If we dedicate time to meditation, prayer, or blessings with intention, it reflects our desire to connect to the spiritual world, and we will be perceived as spiritual individuals.
The way we spend our time influences not only how we see ourselves but also how others perceive us.
In our daily prayers, we say three times: “Blessed are those who dwell in Your house.”
This phrase refers not only to our physical home but also to our social environment. The identity we cultivate attracts people who reflect what we project.
Our identity is important in every social setting, but it is even more vital in our home and among our loved ones. This is why we must pay attention to the atmosphere we create in all areas of our lives, especially at home.
When we return home after a day of work or study, each of us carries emotional baggage from the experiences we’ve accumulated throughout the day. Here lies a delicate balance: on the one hand, it is essential to process the emotions and challenges of the day. The home should be a safe place where everyone can share, release, and express their feelings.
However, we must ensure that dealing with negative emotions does not dominate the entire evening. Emotional processing is important, but it should have its designated time. Afterward, it’s crucial to shift toward creating enjoyable and shared moments where the family can reconnect. This is important because everyone has a limited capacity for absorbing negative emotions.
This does not mean suppressing negative feelings but rather being mindful of limiting the time we give them.
The family evening is an opportunity not only to process emotions but also to set aside the day’s worries and focus on positive moments.
It’s important to transition to experiences that bring joy—laughing together, sharing dreams and plans, or simply enjoying each other’s company.
This combination—providing space to process the day’s emotions and then creating enjoyable quality time—strengthens family bonds and brings a sense of peace to the home.
The right balance between processing negative emotions and fostering joyful experiences transforms the evening into a time that recharges us with energy, happiness, and connection, preparing us for the night and the day ahead.
The atmosphere we choose to create in the evenings affects not only the present moment but also the resilience and memories we build for years to come.
For personal guidance or a lecture:
Miriam Drori
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